Parenting Manual?

Parenting!!  Want a User’s Manual?  Well…I can’t provide that exact option as children don’t specifically come with one. However, there are many supports, resources, books, and tools available. Timber Lake Counseling is one of those sources as well as your church family and other support systems. Don’t hesitate to reach out to other parents, children and youth ministers, and community supports.

Here are a few tips you can implement today to help create and promote resilience and positive development in your child or youth*:

Cach ‘Em Being Good

Use Recognition Notes

Discuss Accomplishments

Encourage Positive Friendships

Encourage Youth to Experiment (appropriately)

Show Warmth

Stop Putdowns

Make your Home a No-Hitting Zone

Talk to Youth

Give Youth Choices

Partner with Teachers

Keep an Adult Eye on Youth

Include Youth in Decision-Making

Work Together on Projects

Limit Stress in Your Own Life

Demonstrate Effective Problem-Solving

Help Youth Think of Solutions

Help Youth “Talk it Out”

Join Your Community

When you implement one or more of these researched based tips in your parenting, you are creating a secure level of interaction and a safe haven for your children to explore and live fully in their life. This will provide the best opportunity for them to move to the healthiest attachment style: secure attachment.

God desires this secure attachment with us. While life may throw us hardship, through Christ, we gain resilience and positive development. It is a place where one views oneself as worthy of love and it is tended to well by loved ones when needed-we are capable of receiving it. Can you offer this to the children and youth in your life? Imagine how different both yours and their life can be.

A true subscription to Romans 8:38-39: And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow-not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below-indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.

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*Tips for Families in Promoting Resilience and Positive Youth Development. C.A.S.E. TAC. 2020